So here’s what happened:
I had been a career student from the time I was 3 years-old. I successfully graduated from nursery school, elementary school, one of the top public high schools in New York City, a public university on a full scholarship and landed myself in a doctoral program with a fellowship. I’ve done really well academically, just like my Indian parents expected and wanted.
And then fecal matter hit the ventilation system. I experienced a series of highly stressful situations as a result of academic departmental politics (blog post forthcoming) that led to an existential/quarter-life crisis. I realized that I did not value the subject I was studying enough to call for a PhD, and therefore, I didn’t have answers for why I was putting up with so much hardship. (By the way, a valid response for putting up with hardship would be valuing the end goal enough that it outweighs the difficulties). How did I get here?
At age 25, I realized that I was not, and had never been, in charge of my life; my parents were and always had been. I had allowed myself to drift according the currents of their river for all my major life decisions up to that point. I was bitter and angry at them, and at myself. So in 2009, I decided to leave the program and gave myself 10 months to find a job before my bank account dried up.
10 months and 400+ job applications later, I had made no progress. I was a victim of the financial crisis and had to move back to my parents home in New York City, the place I had promised myself as a child that I would never return to. With my integrity slowly eroding, I’ve spent two years being underemployed and underpaid to now working in an industry completely outside of my career goals and in a job that I am overqualified for.
This past Christmas, one of my best friends sent me Jack Canfield’s book, The Success Principles. It gave me the motivation that I had lost to get back in the driver’s seat of my life again. Instead of waiting for other people to give me a chance in the form of a job opportunity, I’ve decided that I’M going to give me a chance to make a difference the best way that I can.
So that’s where this blog comes in. I am an expert at being an Indian-American woman from New York City. I’m extremely internet savvy so it was disappointing to see that there was no easy source that I could go to online to find answers to common problems that desi youth meet while straddling two cultures. I want to change that.
With this blog, I will try my best to offer solutions for the issues we face interacting with our family, friends and community. Topics I’m focusing on include career, empowerment, dating and health. When I can, I’ll bring in experiences from colleagues and friends who might be able to fill in the gaps that my experiences may leave. And I intend for this blog to discuss the concerns of ALL desis, not just Indian-Americans. This includes: Pakistani-Americans, Bangladeshi-Americans, Sri Lankan-Americans and Nepalese-Americans. I want to help you make the best decisions you possibly can so you can get from where you are to where you want to be.
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Looking forward to sharing this journey with you.